In a world of on-line dating... sounds like a film trailer. Honestly, on-line dating STILL seems like the greatest oxymoron of all ["on-line"=sitting in your underwear staring at glowing rectangles, and "dating"=meeting a prospective partner over drinks or lunch - the only thing they have in common is underwear! i.e. wearing underwear is a good idea in both cases].
One of my best friend's got married this past summer, and commented that he knew I would meet someone eventually, if I would only be open to it. He said, "You're one of the funniest stable guys I know. You'd be quite a catch for any woman". But... if that's true, why am I still unattached!?
Oh well, 2014 has been a good year so far. After committing to picking up the pace on contacting women via OK-Stupid, things are looking up. I met 6 (six!) new women in the month of March - 2 I'm setting up 2nd dates, and the other 4 seem like interesting women I could be friends with.
After thinking about it, I tried to pin down why the other 4 weren't people I wanted to date:
1. No chemistry - just no 'spark'.
2. Pictures were 5 years old, and no longer accurate.
3. Not over the breakup of her marriage - there was a lot of "personal space" work beyond my ability to help with.
4. 1 "coffee-date". Seriously? If someone is worth meeting in person, they're worth spending enough time to break bread with. Coffee-dates are one of those unspoken dating hazards. As for me... I'd rather do lunch.
I changed my dating profile to read (in part):
"Great guy with sense of humor, killer body, and money to burn, seeks woman who doesn't believe everything she reads".
So far, it's a great conversation starter. It gets the idea across that I'm not too caught up in myself, can be a smart-ass, and in the end it makes people want to read more.
I've also been doing a lot of thinking about the 6 month relationship I had in 2011-12 with someone I'll call Tami. more soon...
