Monday, August 10, 2009

Aug 10:

How do I follow up the heavy reading of "The Myth of Male Power"? By reading Terry Pratchett's "Equal Rites", naturally... That, and I've spent an inordinate amount of time today thinking about the crimes and misdemeanors perpetrated by that truant, scoundrel, and overall miscreant: Ferris Beuller. (see link)

I REALLY have to get myself a retro "Save Ferris" shirt.

This afternoon, there was a showing of the house... and it started to rain. Is change coming? I hope so! Books - got a notice that 'Boundaries in Dating' is due, so I speed-read it at a reading table in the library while waiting for the house showing to finish. Then, I went to the 646.77 section (Dewey decimal system, anyone?) to look for other books on dating, and found one by the founder of eHarmony: "Date... Or Soul Mate?". Both these books have a mindset problem from my perspective - they both assume the premise that people are dating with ONLY ONE GOAL in mind: To Get MARRIED.

As of today, I just can't see myself getting married again... I can NOT AFFORD (financially) to give up half of my net worth again, so I can't see taking that chance again. I'm interested in long-term dating, and maybe eventually co-habitating... I think I'm 'married out'... but... I've also learned to "never say Never"...

David Steele's "Conscious Dating" focuses on becoming a better person; understanding yourself better, and thereby being better able to gauge compatibility between you and a potential friend / lover / soul-mate.

My "wingman" said something that really stuck with me the other day - something I've known about myself for a long time, but it was good to hear someone else say it. She said:
"You're a great guy - smart, funny, and a fun to be with.
When I see you around women, it's clear they really like you."

If only the Right Woman - my Really Great Woman - would make herself known... I'm doing what I can to make sure I make contact with that really great woman. But she's got to meet me half-way, and acknowledge she's there, available, and ready for a great guy.

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