“We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.” ― Robert Fulghum, True Love
During the summer, I became a follower of the MrMoneyMustache blog. He's a Canadian who lives in Colorado, and 'retired' at age 30 to focus on doing the things HE wanted to do rather than chase the almighty dollar for the rest of his life. He blogged about his thought process, tips and tricks for saving and investing, and his philosophy to living life to enjoy LIFE NOW, letting his dollars be the workers, and earn returns in the stock market and investments, and not to hope for some magical retirement at age 60+ by which age he'd be too tired and worn out to enjoy his leisure time.
In short, it sounded right up my alley.
So now I'm focusing on becoming FI again (10 years after the dot-com bubble, and Microsoft stock meltdown took away my first 'stache).
I was reading on the Mustachian Forums, and found the "Single and Mustachian" section very interesting. I read some of the things people were saying there, copied the best thoughts people were having about their own struggle with on-line dating, and re-wrote some of those thoughts (along with some of my own) into a new separate dating profile which I called "FIRE_Weirdness". And here's the resulting new profile:
"Mustashian on my 2nd run at Financial Independence - goal: 3.5 years
I know I won't change who I am for another person, but part of love is the willingness to explore, and find the common ground we can romp through together, maybe even kicking some leaves around from time to time. We may value different things, but as long as we can collaborate on things we can agree on for 'mutual mischief', we'll probably be okay.
Thriftshop is more than a Macklemore song - it's a wardrobe, and decorating source. And Craigslist is my 'storage unit'. Travel means wanting to collect the National Parks, whether that's from a tent (air mattress - no cold hard ground for this guy) or old VW bus. Shoestring budget when possible, but will pay for value. $500 monthly travel/entertainment budget - let's go places! Rice & beans are my 'go to' - the disastrous environmental impact of factory meat farming, and the disastrous health effects of animal fat on my heart arteries has made me a 'mostly vegan' for the past few years... never felt healthier.
Deal breakers: addiction (smoking, alcohol, gambling, drugs), jesus freaks, and "angry" women.
There is no algorithm for love. If there is, it's something we write for ourselves - not the robots at OKC or PlentyOfFish, or Match, Tinder, etc.
Well adjusted weirdo looking for same - for someone whose weirdness is compatible / complementary with my weirdness, and we can combine those weirdnesses into a whole new level of weirdness, and call it love.
I've changed over time. We all change over time. Sometimes a lot. You will change too. It's more important to find someone I can change, take chances, dance lessons, etc, and GROW WITH than someone who is an exact match to the person I am today. It took me a couple years (ok, more than a couple) to get to where I am today, and I'm not finished yet.
Wanna come along for the ride, and see & do new stuff along the way?"
If there are *any* responses, I'm sure they'll be from people who have their financial act together, and have a similar mindset relative to savings and early retirement (that's the hope anyway). Not much to say so far... the first email response was a scam/phishing attempt... I mean REALLY... does a 50+ year old guy think a 25 year old female with "pictures on another site" is a potential match? If she's not within ~10 years of my age, forget it. I have a son who'll be 25 before I know it.
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